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1) What were you like as a young adult? (Personality, dress, family, etc.)
Let me start by saying I’m a little bothered by the fact that this question is addressed in the past tense… as if I’m no longer a young adult. For what it’s worth, I have one more year before I age out of the ‘Young Clergy’ category in the UMC. That’s got to mean something! That being said, I’ll play along - ha!
In my college and early adulting days, I lived for pick-up sports. If there was a game of flag football, ultimate frisbee, or dodgeball to be played, I was there. This love for being active and playing sports was facilitated by the fact that I worked in youth ministry from the age of 19 to 30 which granted me a considerable amount of time to act even younger than I felt.
Also, Anna and I got married fairly young (she was 21 and I was 22) and were totally broke, so adulting meant lots of at-home Red Box movie dates (no Netflix or Disney+ yet) and frozen pizza dinners!
2) What was one memorable challenge that you faced as a young adult and how did you overcome it?
In the church where I grew up, we did a great job connecting with children and youth and we did a great job connecting with older adults, but there was almost nothing for anyone in their twenties and early thirties. At some point, my wife and I had to decide whether or not we’d leave to go find what this church didn’t have or put ourselves to the task of trying to create what we longed for. We chose to stay and build, and for the next 5 years or so, we put ourselves to work trying to create a space where people like us might find community and connection. It was a difficult, often lonely time in the beginning, but it was a beautiful journey of learning to trust God as we poured ourselves into a vision of doing life together, the fruit of which we might never fully enjoy ourselves.
Another challenge I faced was that, as a young person in church leadership, your ideas and passions are often unintentionally overlooked or even dismissed altogether. In one specific season in which my leadership platform increased considerably, I committed myself to a year of learning. What I decided was for that first year, I would do whatever was asked of me by leadership without much pushback or questioning. During that year, I would do things their way and employ their methods, even if I felt like there was a better way of doing it. My rationale was that by doing this, I would either be proven wrong and learn from their wisdom or I would be proved right and put that learning in my back pocket for future use. Either way, at least in my mind, I would emerge as a better leader.
3) What is one piece of advice that every young adult needs to hear?
I’d say this: slow down, show up, and shut up. Let me explain.
4) Share a practical tip, resource, or recipe that every young adult should know:
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